The place of
Erotic Power Exchange
in a healthy relationship

Living in the light is very much about understanding what we fear and why we fear it. There is much which we fear for good reason; there is also much which we fear only because we have been taught to. Ignorance, guilt and fear work together to create dark places in our lives which most of us feel compelled to deny. Living in the light is being willing to shed light into these places by deliberately illuminating them.

One does not have to be an exponent of BDSM to learn from those who are. It is our willingness to look, to be prepared and willing to discover things about ourselves, which makes us whole people. If we are unwilling to look and to learn, we choose to deny a little of the truth, to prefer darkness, and to surrender another part of ourselves to the Prince of Darkness.

• BDSM – Not for me – the fear of BDSM
• Power and Control – a discussion about the source of erotic power in BDSM
• Why Dominate – it is really all about surrender.
• Consent – more than just a legal issue
• Equality – equality and respect are necessary in healthy relationships
• Barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen – love and growth is not oppression.
• A review of ‘The List’ an ASB post by ‘Nurse Jones’.
• Nurse Jones’ response to my review.

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Original: October ‘99
This page is part of “Living in the Light”
found at: http://www.tassie.net.au/~phoban/